Hahaha! Great honesty about the grief books. In fact I would imagine that it would be even more dangerous to grieve through the stages of grief alone with books; which is why I appreciate your blog so much- because the hardest thing about grief is that it often leave people and me once very isolated and its absolutely up roaring to hear you reach forward so openly and stronger each time about your pain. So I appreciate this blog, your gift of honesty and resiliency so much. This blog post feels empowering and real as always & your gentle reminder of resiliency is very uplifting to be around and read. I would too agree with you (as much reading I have done); that the grief books did not stand a chance with me either for I could not understand what I did not know how to go back and experience at the time ... I reprocessed shock as I encounter your blog and other stories I have heard along the way. I discovered denial as I wheel out a young mother at MCV as a volunteer; a mother who had tried every drug available and was informed that her cancer had metastasized and was terminal. I piece together my grief from volunteering through Comfort Zone Camp and listening to young children talk about their emotions around a campfire. (The kids may have been just as real as you ... ). I worked through the stages of acceptance as I held dying patients in my arms (as a nursing assistant on the palliative care unit) watching them leave this world peacefully & my list could go on but the truth is that there is no manual for grief; as everyone's journey are so individualized but you have provided excellent resources in this blog for young widows -- for I hope this is okay but I have already passed along your blog to share with other young widows in Richmond for Jill (my therapist) too finds that there are limited resources for young widows out there. Jill Fitzgerald is great; she was one of the founding members of Comfort Zone Camp and she centers her practice around a very balance approach. Her practice is called Jill Resource Center; for she doesn't believe that therapy is not just talk sessions -- but in fact a place where we can discover growth,other stories and resources together. PS. Thanks for the 20 increment thumb of rule. Super helpful! Wish I had known when I had embarked on my journey & as always thank you for blogging and thank for let me shuffle through a lot of my journey out loud for I've always wanted to write a book one day and after shuffling through your blog; I think I may soon be ready to write myself because your voice is contagious Erin! Sorry for these long comments. Please feel free to delete after reading.
Hahaha! Great honesty about the grief books. In fact I would imagine that it would be even more dangerous to grieve through the stages of grief alone with books; which is why I appreciate your blog so much- because the hardest thing about grief is that it often leave people and me once very isolated and its absolutely up roaring to hear you reach forward so openly and stronger each time about your pain. So I appreciate this blog, your gift of honesty and resiliency so much. This blog post feels empowering and real as always & your gentle reminder of resiliency is very uplifting to be around and read. I would too agree with you (as much reading I have done); that the grief books did not stand a chance with me either for I could not understand what I did not know how to go back and experience at the time ... I reprocessed shock as I encounter your blog and other stories I have heard along the way. I discovered denial as I wheel out a young mother at MCV as a volunteer; a mother who had tried every drug available and was informed that her cancer had metastasized and was terminal. I piece together my grief from volunteering through Comfort Zone Camp and listening to young children talk about their emotions around a campfire. (The kids may have been just as real as you ... ). I worked through the stages of acceptance as I held dying patients in my arms (as a nursing assistant on the palliative care unit) watching them leave this world peacefully & my list could go on but the truth is that there is no manual for grief; as everyone's journey are so individualized but you have provided excellent resources in this blog for young widows -- for I hope this is okay but I have already passed along your blog to share with other young widows in Richmond for Jill (my therapist) too finds that there are limited resources for young widows out there. Jill Fitzgerald is great; she was one of the founding members of Comfort Zone Camp and she centers her practice around a very balance approach. Her practice is called Jill Resource Center; for she doesn't believe that therapy is not just talk sessions -- but in fact a place where we can discover growth,other stories and resources together. PS. Thanks for the 20 increment thumb of rule. Super helpful! Wish I had known when I had embarked on my journey & as always thank you for blogging and thank for let me shuffle through a lot of my journey out loud for I've always wanted to write a book one day and after shuffling through your blog; I think I may soon be ready to write myself because your voice is contagious Erin! Sorry for these long comments. Please feel free to delete after reading.
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